In my opinion, one of the more impressive abilities of the human mind is the ability to rationalize anything. This ability to rationalize is both good and bad. The ability to rationalize that keeps the codependent stuck in an abusive relationship because “it’s really not that bad” is the same ability that the Marine has to rationalize running up a beach into a spray of machine gun fire to fight the “enemy” and believe it’s a good idea. This same ability to rationalize helped Harry Truman make the impossible decision to drop the atomic bomb on Japan and kill 225,000 Japanese citizens in the hope that it would end World War II and spare the lives of several million more people.
A person can rationalize that the world will end tomorrow, find data that somehow supports their claim, and then start preaching to people that they should prepare for their demise. They will ultimately find people that are willing to believe their claims. This has been going on as long as mankind has existed. The most recent “scare” I can remember was the end of the Mayan calender. Well, we’re all still here…
I find a lot of ironic rationalizations in history. One significant example is the United States Declaration of Independence.
The first part of the preamble to the United States Declaration of Independence reads as follows:
“We hold these truths to be self evident, that all men are created equal* , that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.”
If you notice, I have placed an asterisk (*) after “equal”. That asterisk does not exist in the original text.
Here’s what that asterisk means ->
* men defined as white males of Western European descent. Does not include women, people of African, Asian, Middle Eastern, Eastern European, American Indian or any other descent that is not males of Western European descent. Also does not include males of Western European descent that have an indentured status.
At the same time the United States Declaration of Independence was written and signed, there was a ship that had a belly full of Africans being shipped to United States as slaves.
Why did our founding fathers believe that only white males of Western European descent were created equal? Because that’s what they were taught as children! If they stood up to their parents and told them “Africans are not subhuman and to make them slaves is horrible”, what do you think would have happened to them? If they stood up to their fathers and said “Women have the same rights as men!” what would have happened? Do you think dad would agree? Do you think mom would agree? Most likely neither of their parents would agree and they would be severely punished for their ridiculous notions.
One other ironic piece of American history is that less than 85 years later when a significant portion of the United States declared their independence from the United States and formed the Confederacy, those same bureaucrats pulled a …”not so fast my friend”… and decided that it was worth the lives of 750,000 people to prevent those states from seceding. So is that hypocritical? Quite possibly. The states that seceded probably could have written nearly an identical declaration of independence to the one written in 1776.
My point of this post is this: When dealing with people, look at the facts. Look at the behavior, not the words being said. Don’t rationalize. A narcissist will always lie if it’s to their advantage to do so. Let me say that again: A narcissist will always lie if it’s to their advantage to do so. A narcissist is a pathological liar. They will say or do anything if they think they can get away with it. Trust the actions, not the words, and you will see more clearly the person behind the false mask.