5 comments on “Link Between Childhood Abuse and Alcohol Abuse

  1. I’m not surprised at all. After all emotional abuse directly translates to said children not being able to deal with their emotions. In a supportive family you learn to talk about it, walk it of, blow of steam one way or another. Abusive families bottle it all up until it explodes or they find an acceptable way to have some emotion leak out so to speak.

    Now take that kid with no arsenal to deal with their emotions and fast forward a decade or two. You have an adult who still does not know how to talk about what is bothering them, walk things of or blow of steam somehow. Further said adult now has a mountain of things that were never talked about, miles they never walked things of on and a lot of steam that was never blown of. As a child its normal that you still are awkward about it, because all children need to learn about this.

    As a grown up many others have learnt this mysterious art form and have no idea about the mountains and landscapes of pain accumulated within (formerly and maybe also currently) emotionally abused adults. Thus the isolation becomes even larger, the gap much harder to bridge and the desperation and loneliness increasingly unbearable. With no healthy coping mechanism any method to feel better for even a moment becomes a very very sought after thing. In fact I have difficulty thinking of any reason why one would become dependant on any habit or substance without some such problem.

    • Hi Stranger,

      Thanks for your thoughts.

      Yes, managing emotions is a learned behavior, and however we manage to learn to manage our emotions is the way we default to managing our emotions throughout our lives. In order to successfully manage emotions as an adult after a childhood of abuse, we have to ‘unlearn’ the old way, or use CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) techniques to reprogram ourselves to take a different approach to managing emotions.

      One thing I found that was interesting during my research was that the brains of abused children actually develop differently because of the stress involved with abuse, and this different development of an abused child’s brain lends itself to being more susceptible to substance abuse. Amazing the damage an abusive parent can do.


      • Yes parenting is one of the ways to be in a position of next to unlimited power, which as we know has a tendency to corrupt people absolutely. The more I think about it the less I understand why nations do not do more to ensure children are brought up healthy (including emotional health) after all the damage done to a child often takes decades of health care to mitigate and is rarely ever undone. This is also an issue for economies, there should be perfectly selfish reasons to take better care of us even if you don’t give a damn. Blindness is easier to pay for I guess.

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  3. Wow, loved this. As a daughter of a narcissistic mother, I began drinking at 13, and it had escalated by 16 to some kind of dependancy. I didn’t give it up until I was 33, but like yourself, really had no ill effects from doing so. And I drank more than most. So, perhaps the addictive side comes from genetics, or other forms of abuse, or an inherent chemical imbalance. I’d love to know if other adult children of narcissists have found stopping to be relatively simple, once the decision is made.

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