I am the adult son of a narcissistic mother and a perfectly enabling father with twin golden child younger brothers. I have spent the majority of my life dealing and living with the ramifications of my upbringing with a narcissist. Recent events have made my life nearly impossible to continue in the same pattern, having three failed significant relationships in my adult life, so I went searching for answers. Learning those answers was probably the most painful experience of my entire life.
I write this blog for several reasons:
– First, as a means to sort through my feelings. Hopefully those of you who have had similar experiences may identify with some of mine. I hope that I offer an alternate view and perspective to the information that is already available.
– Second, I write because there is very little information that I have been able to find by and for men who grew up with a narcissistic parent. I hope that this blog will be beneficial to any men (and women, too) who have had their lives significantly impacted by a narcissistic family upbringing.
I do not have therapist’s credentials and only can offer my experiences. I have a highly analytic mind thanks to years of hyper vigilance, and have done significant research on the topics of narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder and other cluster B personality types. I have also “walked the walk” so to speak, and I firmly believe that unless you experience narcissistic abuse, you have a very difficult time grasping the magnitude of the damage it can do.
Thank you for joining me on my journey.